LONELY BLACK BOY

Not once, and not twice this weekend, have I thought about jumping back on Grindr after not having used the app for about two months. The reason that I decided to walk away from those unproductive chatting grounds in the first place is multiple-fold. Firstly, the pandemic lockdown season kicked in in March 2020 and that meant that if I didn't want to be one of those unfortunate statistics, I needed to keep my dick in my hands: pun intended. My stewpidness actually had a hook-up right after the government announced the lockdown and I spent a few weeks being anxious that I might have contracted the COVID-19 from my casual sex partner. Even though we used a condom, I spend a lot of time kissing his face. What a darling he was that the first thing he opted to do when he got into my apartment was washing his hands. On another note, it started to dawn on me that my primary need for being on Grindr was not being met. I am still fairly new in this country after having only ever lived ...

We had already been together that February Friday night for at least two hours. Since I'm not much of a drinker, I had asked Andy to pick the first spot for our TGIF night together. He had selected an Irish pub in the city centre where we each had had at least one pint of Guinness: a proudly Irish drink. Because I've got social anxiety, I always plan ahead for my meetings with people that I'm not yet familiar with. So one of those pre-meditated questions which was also one of the first that I asked Andy at the pub was: "Did you grow up eating a lot of Irish potatoes" ? Surprisingly, his answer was yes! Yes, actually I was surprised as I'd expected that he'd answer in the negative because I've encountered a lot of scenarios where stereotypes of a place end up being far from the reality. Hence, I'd actually imagined that the popularity of that food (Irish potatoes) might fall into that basket of outdated stereotypes. Photo by  Engin Akyurt  from ...

One or two days after I paid someone I met on Grindr for sex , a man who happens to be in my top 10 favorite people met on Grindr so far told me via WhatsApp that we can't be friends anymore. Sola and I had been so compatible that he might have been my first boyfriend ever if he had not been due to get married (to a woman) in less than a year from the time we started dating. Much to his heartbreak at the time, I stopped our relationship from counting down the romantic path, not seeing the point in going into something that had a very obvious and appalling expiration date; asides also having more  expectations - at the time - from a boyfriend than he was meeting. Nonetheless, our friendship survived that period and we kept meeting for weekend hangouts frequently where neither of us wanted to leave the other's company, up until he had to relocate from Nigeria to Asia where he then got married shortly after. ----------------------------------------- Sola had visited Nig...

I miss writing. So so much, I must say. But that up there was placed there, just to let me remember that prior to this, my last article was written in May. I feel so bad. So much life experience has gone to waste in the four months between. Absolutely unforgivable dear. That's not why I'm writing anyway. Today was really great. Great, because multiple little good things have happened to me within the past twelve hours. I feel really good. In my usual organized manner, I will list them out, one after the other. Iyfee's wedding The only high-society wedding I have ever been invited to. Bouncers, IV, gift bag, buffet, state governors and oil and gas business moguls. You just name it and it was there. I am so glad I did not miss this for the hackathon I flaked out of yesterday. The bride happens to be one of the few persons I happened to really connect to at my last place of work. She was also looking super beautiful beside her good looking man. Yes, and there was t...