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Not once, and not twice this weekend, have I thought about jumping back on Grindr after not having used the app for about two months. The reason that I decided to walk away from those unproductive chatting grounds in the first place is multiple-fold. Firstly, the pandemic lockdown season kicked in in March 2020 and that meant that if I didn't want to be one of those unfortunate statistics, I needed to keep my dick in my hands: pun intended. My stewpidness actually had a hook-up right after the government announced the lockdown and I spent a few weeks being anxious that I might have contracted the COVID-19 from my casual sex partner. Even though we used a condom, I spend a lot of time kissing his face. What a darling he was that the first thing he opted to do when he got into my apartment was washing his hands. On another note, it started to dawn on me that my primary need for being on Grindr was not being met. I am still fairly new in this country after having only ever lived ...

Back in October 2018, I decided to take three weeks off from work. I was feeling pretty despondent about the whole responsibility and ambition and even, life thing, so I figured that time away from the regular was just what I needed to find my productivity and purpose again. Perhaps, another reason I was feeling low was my recent failing at finding love with a love interest, despite my committing quite some time and effort to it. W A N D E R L U S T Earlier in the year, I'd hoped to be able to travel out of Nigeria during my annual leave (East Africa or Europe). Alas, I never got to planning this out on time despite having the budget for it (I'm so lazy, sometimes it amazes me how I've managed to come up with the amount of content on this blog). So, I settled for doing a mini-Nigerian tour. After what was not really a lot of thought, I settled on Kano, Abuja and Uyo. Kano, because a guy I'd met on Facebook a few weeks before - and got along pretty well with - ...

Well. I decided yesterday to once again after countless previous failed attempts, try to achieve a 30-day streak of not jerking off to porn. Why is this even a goal you ask? Well. Below are my reasons: I strongly believe that being used to pleasuring myself stands in the way of my ability to feel good when being pleasured by a sexual partner I think being able to discipline myself to get sexual stimulation only from a sexual partner will be a major boost to my confidence and general discipline which I can apply to other areas of life. This is mainly from the stories I've read of other people who have tried it and have been relatively successful at it I hate how there's nothing to look forward to after ejaculating from jerking off to porn. No post coital cuddling, no kissing, just nothing. All your sexual appetite just vamooses in an instant and there's no consolation. The last time I discussed this goal with a friend, at a Friday night hangout with his boyfriend...

Usually, when I wake from my sleep, I'm not able to remember any details of my dream. However, yesterday morning was very different. I had a dream, soon after which I woke up and I tell you, waking up was such a relief cos' it just felt so real. If what happened in the dream was in reality, then I think my life might be as good as over. Sorry to disappoint you, but I cannot tell you that I remember where it all started. The only start I remember is that I was in some car with Tunji, in lovey-dovey mode. We were making out passionately and I was loving every minute of it. Let me tell you a secret, my attraction to Tunji is so hot that even as I write this section of the article where I mention his name and the thoughts of really kissing him flood my mind, I'm straining to keep my erection down. Tunji just has this.... innocent, yet piercing look that, draws me in and makes me just wanna plant the longest kiss ever into his full black lips while massaging the back of his ...

TL;DR : Grindr is a GPS-powered mobile-chat application that works in Nigeria esp. Lagos!!! It locates and shows you other gay men using the app around you, from the closest to the farthest. Getting a booty call has never been easier for gay folks in this nigger land. Quick steps: Buy an android phone (dunno, don't care which other platforms the app exists on); Set-up internet data on your phone; Download  Grindr  from the Play Store; You are good to go... Be witty, not boring Warning! Warning!! Warning!!! Leave the insanely hot profile picture guys alone. You're most likely to get snubbed, except maybe you're one of the insanely hot guys too. *going to get my own hot body too* #isuckatwooinghotguys or are hot guys just all unbearably boring?

More than A little background I work at a Software company which provides software solutions to financial institutions, with Nigerian commercial banks as its most relevant customer base. My job there is as an application support personnel. It's a pretty interesting role, in that it allows me to exercise my people (customer) facing skills, while not totally pulling me out of doing techie stuff. Since the 1+ year I've been there, I've been in charge of an enterprise application which is in use at about 10 commercial banks. The application allows the banks offer online payment collection services  to website owners a.k.a. merchants. It was turbulent in this role for the first few months, but as the say, adversity breeds  strength. So, right now, I'm the one to talk to when: The application crashes and is either partially or fully defunct; A new merchant is having technical issues, setting up their website to accept payments through the application; The bank needs a...